MIXED BLESSINGS...hmmmm how mixed are yours???

Have you ever wondered that a series of incidents that happens in our life has some significance. Ok let me get it clear. What iam trying to say is have you ever thought that a person you meet casually may end up making a big change in life. Similarly you missing a flight,not attending a particular interview may just turn out to be a life saver. Why does such a thing happen. Does the almighty play such games having something on his mind.

For me if you see from the time i was born everything has been going in a delayed fashion.When my mom was admitted in the hospital,the birth star that was prevalant was "hastham" ofcourse it was almost over then it was "chitrai" and it seems in tamil there is a saying "chitrai appan theruvil" which means if the daughter of the house is born under the birth star "chitrai" it seems the head of the family will lose all the money and his job and their family will face heavy financial crunch till the daughter gets married and leave the family. After wedding it seems the woman with this star will bring prosperity to her in laws place and also it seems her parents' house will revive back. So my mum was very jittery that her daughter should not be born under the star chitrai. After Chitrai follows Swathi which is very good for woman,she it seems will bring prosperity whereever she goes. So my mum started reading this book called "sundara Gandam" and prayed for days and nights and guess what "chitrai" just passed and "swathi" just popped its head and i was born. My mom was so releived that since then for whatever prayers she has she reads this"sundaragandam" (wonder whats on it).

After this was the time i had to join my college, after a lot of confusion i joined B.Com in one of the best colleges in town one week after the college started. See the delay there. Then my turn to get a job. I was jobless for almost 5 months then i took up a job out of home. Was not happy with what i was doing then from there tried another job and got it 6 months after i quit my first job. Delay again. Now i work very close from home. Read my lips close as in a stone throw distance from home. What else can you ask for. And now the time has come for me to get married. And "so far no good". So many men but none "the one". I mean again the delay. My parents keep saying that there is always delay in life and when it happens the best one happens. So guess the best man is on his way and the best part is yet to happen.

My very close friend is undergoing a similar phase in life. He has got an offer from a very famous IT company in a very high position but somehow his date of joining has been delaying for almost 3 months now. Well its like you have the cake but cant eat it. How sad is that. Meanwhile he got an offer from a huge indian conglomerate with a rocking pay package. and he is in his final stages of making it there and this has always been his dream work. Now if he woul've joined the MNC he wouldnt have been able to make this happen right. Now see its like you went in search of a chocolate and ennded up finding a chocolate factory.Hmmm is'nt that great. This exactly is what is "Serendipity".

So guys if there is delay in anything in your life do not fret its coz the big man up there has something much more big and exciting for you. So live life like you've never lived before. Celebrate cos life is a celebration. Spend time with your loved ones. Tell them today how much you love them.

When love and hate collide

Since last evening my head is filled with thoughts. Questions which has no answers. In life i have learnt that having expectations is not worth a penny. When it doesn happen it hurts. Its not necessary that whatever you like with all your heart will happen. Generally what you least expect only happens. Ok i know i don make any sense here.Chuck it.
Ever heard of something like paying for all previous births' bad deeds. They say its KARMA. I find it quiet weird ok. I would've been a mean lady or bad man in my previous birth. But in this birth iam a sweet person (well everyone says so) then why should i pay now for wht i did in my last birth. Was telling my mom the other day that one must pay for what one does immediatly thats fair enough. She said its no more like that this is "Kalikalam" in which you pay the price immediatly. Thats better.
I knw 2 sisters who is in their 30s still unmarried . Now the reason why they didnt get married is because their ancestors have done something bad in their times for which their family is paying the price. How mean is that. But god is kind enough. All we have to do is do some prayashchit and the paap gets cleansed. So it means we are getting a chance to mend our past deeds and that of our ancestors. My parents go to temple everyday. I used to wonder why? i mean visitng god once in a while is fair enough why go daily. Infact i used to laugh it off saying that God will run away looking at you come daily and ask for something. But the fact is Faith in God is very important. He is the ultimate. My mom always says that if you truly need something pray with all your heart and god will definitely answer your prayers. Its a matter of time. It seems goddess parvathi did a lot of fasting,performed a lot of pooja inorder to marry lord Shiva. When goddess herself had to put maska to God then hum kis keth ke muli hai.
IF you are wondering what significance does my topic have with content,the answer is nothing. Its my favourite song by deff leppard.

HOW GENTLE ARE MEN

Have you ever thought why men are referred to as GENTLEMEN and women are just ladies. Well try to ponder over it and i bet you will not be able to find the answer cos ladies its definitely not directly proportional to their characteristic feature. If women are uncomprehendable then men are incorregible and unsatiable. Lets take instances on how men react to certain situations.

Men crib that everytime they take their woman out they end up paying. Now tell me something did we ever ask you to pay, as in verbally tell you "darling can you settle the bill". Simple, your ego hurts if you let the woman pay.So stop cribbing ok.

When a girl is friendly with you,you take her for granted. you assume that whatever you say she'll agree.The first instance you ask her out. Let me tell you women these days are a tough cookie to break so beware.

If she asks you to do your work properly,you call it nagging. If she is telling you her problems,you say she is complaining. If she is asking you to be more sensitve and emotional you say she is being manipulative. If she is asking you not to stay late at work or not to drink too much then you say she is not giving me enough space. Her caring and loving nature becomes a pain in the ass for you.

What really surprises me is when women are just the same before and after marriage how is it that men completely change. For the change you blame the women. Remember its always women who are on the receiving end,who are blamed for everything. Even when your child does something annoying you blame the mother for bringing up the child that way.

All men out there just sit back and think, god has not made you mean. Circumstances make you that way. Put yourself in your woman's shoes and live her life for a day and you'll understand what it is to be her. When we call you Gentlemen try and be like one.

Actually i wish to end this blog with a song you know na thats my style but there are no songs on men can you beat that. There is so much to sing about women and nothing about men.How bad is that...:-)

Have you ever really loved a women????

How many men would have wished for the power that Mel Gibson possessed in the movie "What women Want". Most of the men crib that they just don understand what women are thinking,what they want,how will they react to a situation. She wants you to be more sensitive and once you become one then she says you've changed. She wants you to be honest about everything and when you utter the truth she says your hurting her feelings. Ok so women are complicated species.Agreed. Sit right back you guys.take a chill pill. I can help you guys with something here.

This is what she looks for in her man....

• To top the list SENSE OF HUMOUR. Trust me even an ugly man with a rocking sense of humour can sweep her off her feet. Make her laugh like crazy and she is all yours.
• Honesty,Integrity,Loyalty. If you are double crossing with her then you are a dead man. If you are drunk just tell her that you are. If you are coming home late tell her why you got late.
• The M-word. Believe it or not its very important. Ok i know reality sucks. But darlings welcome to the real world. You can have the looks of Brad pitt but if you a salary thats a pittance then you are a loser. Most women look for a financially supportive guy. You need not have a huge bank balance but atleast something to satisfy her needs. (ok iam talking about the needy women and not the greedy ones here)
• Sex. Iam i being very blatant here. Well the truth is she wants it. A good sex and pleasure can make her all yours.
• Sensitive and very supportive. Ask her why she is upset. once in a while offer to listen to her problems,about her work. Tell her I Love You atleast once in a day. Give her that hug when you leave for work and when you come back.
• Offer to help her in her routine chores. Most of the women these days go for work. So remember she has to do her routine chores at home and then rush to work. But you men only have to take care of your work at office. Atleast make sure you do your things properly. Like for instance going for shower without a towel and then shouting from inside, put your damn shoes or files somewhere and tell her that she has put it somewhere.
• Take her on a holiday once in a year.You both need break from work dont you.
• Be a good listener. when she is saying something do not read a newspaper or watch TV. Put it all aside,ask her to sit next to you and just listen.
• Make her feel important, tell her that she is most beautiful and wonderful women in the whole world.
• Do not forget the most important dates. Her birthday.your wedding anniversary,her parents birthday. Keep the reminders on your damn phone man...It helps.

Ok now you all men there try and incorporate these first. See the difference. Trust me she will do anything for her man. get me right ANYTHING...Will leave you all with Bryan Adams' lovely song....

When you love a woman tell her that she's really wanted

when you love a woman tell her that shes the one

She needs somebody to tell her that you'll always be together

So tell me have you ever really.really really ever loved a woman

Wish list of the angel

Angels make your wishes come true so who'll make the angel's wishes happen....:-)
Ok here is my wish list....

• I Pod Nano black color with 4 GB (Size does matter. When it comes to musik i cant compromise)
• Think pad, sleek,slender and silver (sexy and seductive too)
• Sony handycam (catch the precious moments!!!! somethings money can t buy ha...)
• A complete makeover to my own self. (manish malhotra's outfits,makeup by Mickey contrator and hair by any expert..can't recall any names)
• First row tickets to Bryan Adams' concert (Letz make a night to remember)
• Candle light dinner with John Abraham (Don tell Bips)
• Sturdy and sexy black SUV preferably Lexus with rocking music system (wouldn mind if its driven by an equally sturdy good-looking hunk)
• A sensational holiday package to Australia and Newzealand.(with my man...how i wish i knew who he is).One to one conversation with the two sexy father-son The Bachans (make sure that Jaya and ash are not around)
• Make an album with Strings (I juss love their Yeh meri kahani frm Zinda..these guys juss rock)

Ok will stop right here. Let my wish not become somebody else's nightmare. So wanna make the angel's wish come alive......

UNCHAINED MELODY

I Don have much to write now thought will still write something on the blog...i though for a while and i swear i didnt know what to write..at that moment a few lines from my favourite songs struck me so i typed it all out..hope it makes sense to you.....If u r wondering what songs these are i'll tell u don worry....

The first one is by Duran Duran called Ordinary world. Well i thought these songs pretty much suited me may be till yesterday (well TinTin you know why!!!) but today its a brand new day for me...:-) and will continue to be....

But I won't cry for yesterday, there's an ordinary world,
Somehow I have to find.
And as I try to make my way, to the ordinary world...
I will learn to survive
Papers in the roadside tell of suffering and greed
Here today, forgot tomorrow
Ooh, here besides the news of holy war and holy need
Ours is just a little sorrowed talk........


Now this one will pretty much suit all of us when our day is all screwed up...You'll agree with me.Right???? Its called Bad day by Daniel Powter..

Sometimes the system goes on the blink
And the whole thing turns out wrong
You might not make it back and you know
That you could be well oh that strong
And I'm not wrong
So where is the passion when you need it the most
Oh you and I
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
Cause you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
You've seen what you like
And how does it feel for one more time
You had a bad day
You had a bad day

Don we all sit and crib about things that really doesnt matter to us right. I mean for me i think of the most insignificant stuff and feel like life just stops right there for me. I really fail to understand that life has so much in store for me. May be its already there and i have not noticed it...may be well..may be...
hmmm this song just struck me. Its called Nothing Else Matters by Metallica

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don't just say
And nothing else matters
Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

GET A LIFE LADY !!!!!!

Ah you bet life can just tie you down so badly sometimes that you just wish that the earth just disappears into thin air. The word fun,relaxation,happiness doesn seem to exist in my dictionery any more. Come on girlie get a life. Ya right if only i could. This whole work stuff is getting into my nerve. I work from 9 in the morning to 10 in the night. Ah what a workaholic i have become. Not that i want to be one. It seems like my whole life revolves around my work. Work and workout (thankfully have some time for this one) is all i have time for. If only i can get some peaceful slumber. Feb has gone by and march is here.Timez flying like crazy i would say galloping. Gosh iam getting older by the day. Alright now let me stop gribbing about my life.Can somebody puleeeseeee give me a reassurance that bad days dont last.

What a crappy budget. Sure nobody is happy with it. The economic times' headlines just rocks "MARUTHI-IDLI-PASTA BUDGET"..haha sense of humour at its best.Ok so the Fin Min cuts excise duty for the automobile sector,hence maruthi slashed its prices so has hyndai. Good. Alrite good news for ice cream and pasta lovers. But look at the hike on service tax gosh this is ridiculous. My mobile bills are gonna shoot up like crazy. So are the parlour and hotel bills. Unnerving and disheartening budget. Sorry Mr.Chidambaram you failed miserable this time.

Its been a while since i went to Barista for that Capuccino large or to residency's chin chin for the delicious chinese food. ahhh i want that life back. My friends are all are stuck with work just like me If only money grew on trees we don have to slog our ass out.Whatever...

Enuf of my gyan on the blog.Will finish with a few lines from a song thats running on my mind now. Courtesy GREEN DAY...

I walk on empty streets on the boulevard of broken dreams...
Don know where it leads..all i know is that i walk alone....
i walk alone..i walk alone....
My shadow is the only thing that walks beside me.....
I walk alone....i walk alone....

Why should guys have all the fun..

Well you must be wondering that I'm promoting Hero Honda Pleasure thru my blog. Hahaha well I'm not. But yes their caption actually made me think "Are guys really having that much fun". Then i came to a conclusion may be they are more than the fairer sex. Take for instance a husband and wife. Both are income earners for the family. But the wife only gets to make the breakfast and the dinner (assuming that they make alternate arrangements for lunch). Its no more that men are the only bread winner of the family. Both are bread winners but the women is still home maker. She has to cook,buy provisions ( even these two,men do at times) but why is it that she has to "give birth to babies". ok thats how nature works fine.. but cant there be equality in that too. GOD cant you see that we women are also putting in so much effort in everything like male community.

Take movies for that matter how many movies revolves around women. Most of the time its the hero who takes the revenge,gets to work hard and make money,woos the heroine and fights with her father. While shooting for song in snow clad zones in switz and other parts of europe the hero gets to wear warm clothes but the heroine has to wear skimpy clothes showing major part of her skin.

Take the case of marriage. Why is it that only the woman have to leave her house and go and live with her husband and his family. Ever seen husbands adding their wives names behind theirs. Take the case of arranged marriages the groom is always elder to the bride. Why cant it be he other way around.

Have you ever come across news saying lady rapes and kills man.

Are there any female formula one players.

I can go on with the list but all this will never change. Though there are women entrepreneurs, CEOs,Musicians,Sports person, it the women who has to leave her house after marriage,be home maker,makes breakfast,deliver babies. Me writing the blog is not going to change this scenario right??? You might just read it and say "hmm just another frustrated woman"or some might say "women can never be satisfied".....

So u r an IIM Grad,that dont impress me much......

Every year the amount of candidates registering for CAT is increasing by leaps and bounds. One out of a lakh gets into the "supposedly best premier B school" of India. If you've got a call letter from A (ahmedabad,which is the best of 6) then it is as good as winning the world cup or winning the oscars, well getting into it is secondary. Why is it such a big deal to get an MBA oops sorry PGDBA from IIM. Every man or women passing out of the institute is assured of placement which offers aatractive pay packages. ok agreed. Every year consultancies,investment banks,FMCGs, IT biggies take IIMs for the post of VPs,AVPs etc etc..
Place them in their offices abroad,give them a car,an apartment fully furnished. Good for them. So ultimately its the MONEY that attracts them to these institutes. For which they take year off breaking their heads on the math,logical and verbal reasoning to crack the CAT. Then spend sleepless nights practising for GD and PI. Finally get there. Again sleepless nights on assignments,tests,presentations,seminars. Then the campus placement season starts again sleepless nights preparing for the interview with HR.
Alright so finally they get into a huge organisation in a high position. Agreed that they make big money but do they really have the time to enjoy what they make. The story is repeated all over again sleepless nights,deadlines,stress,pressure.
When you ask them they say when they pay you a fat sum of money they expect you to put in that much. Ok so its all about money. When you can earn the same without doing an MBA from IIM then its fair enough right. I mean if a Harvard drop out can start a huge organisation and employ a 100 IIM then he definitely has an extra something which may be IIM doesn teach or maybe the harvard did not realise. Ratan Tata did not go to IIM but his huge conglomerate has gone to places. Anil and Mukesh Ambani must have gone to Whorton but their father Mr.Dhirubhai Ambani who started RIL did not go to any B school.
I wish to sign off by saying that when you have the STUFF, the drive to take risk, the burning desire, the killer instinct then you definitely need not have an MBA from IIM and still make BIG MONEY.

Its all about money honey!!!!!

Abba sang in their all time famous song " money money money very funny in a rich man's world".... Well how many of us have actually thought and related ourselves and our lives to this song. Every morning as we all wake up to start our hectic day,running behind a crowded bus,sometimes missing it,then paying through our nose to auto rickshawalas. you reach the office a wee bit late to learn that your boss who always comes late to office has reached on time that day and the moment you step in he looks at the watch like thats the first time he notices that there is something in his wrist that shows the time. Then he gives you the GYAAN as to how such habits will give a black mark in your career...Blah..blah...ok now my point is why are we going through all this. The answer is you need to survive in this world for which you need something called MONEY. It is'nt survival of the fittest anymore its the survival of the richest.

The other day i was going through these matrimonial websites where just for kicks i opened a few grooms profile to know what they are looking for. To my surprise (well actually not really) most of it reads "wanted fair,slim,beautiful girl preferably working. MBA, CA, S/W professionals preferred (heard IT pays big bucks...hmmm now the ad makes sense). so weddings are not just decided on compatibility of groom and brides but the money factor matters too.

Most of the time the papers carry news about the stock market scams. I ve heard that if you invest wisely in stocks you make loads of money but man it doesn't say invest honestly. So there are these investors who swindle money using stock markets as a means. The crime rates have been increasing everyday, murder,underworld activities,drug trafficking,match fixing,prostitution... all of them centered around one ultimate motive "make money..big money"

If only money grows on trees we don't have to take the crowded bus,listen to the bull your boss gives, get an MBA to be a qualified bride,be a victim to the stock market scams. Welcome to the real world where money rules. Man made money and machines and ultimately became slaves to it.

Why do we have to go through all this. For the sake of money is it? and when we die we leave everything behind. You know what i think when a man dies the money he has earned should also be buried along with him so that he may be respected up there at the hell as well.